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Introducing the SELFF Quotient: The 5 different facets of divorce that you need to be aware of to help you move from surviving to thriving! These 5 facets appropriately spell out S.E.L.F.F… … and as you recognize each one and become aware of the feelings they bring about, the more prepared you will be to embrace these feelings for what they are: Intense
…and Temporary So here’s some critical knowledge about your SELFF that will help you going forward: The Social Divorce is all about the realignment, loss, and creation of friendships. After divorcing, you may find that some of the people you socialized with as half of a married couple are no longer wanting to socialize with you or you may no longer want to socialize with them. This is natural. In fact, as you grow and more fully embrace the “true you” after divorce, you might even change or fine tune your friendships again. The Emotional Divorce is a process. It involves feelings of:
You can go through these emotions in all sorts of ways and through various times of your life, but it’s complete only when you can become emotionally detached from your former spouse. The Legal Divorce is usually the first one that comes to mind when we hear the word “divorce”. This is typically handled by attorneys and is legally complete when the divorce decree is signed. The Financial Divorce refers to the division of your financial assets and debt. It also encompasses the decisions made about other monetary matters such as child and/or spousal support. This can get ugly, especially when alimony and child support are involved. You may end up spending much more time being “financially married” to someone with whom you have successfully divorced in other facets. The Functional Divorce is important because it involves a physical lifestyle change. This facet of divorce is all about transitioning from being part of a “marriage team” into a “single person.” During the Functional Divorce, you learn to embrace yourself as an individual, full and complete human being and not part of a married couple. Along the way you will develop new skills, improve your self-confidence and create a new support structure for yourself. The functional divorce (and all the other facets of divorce) is complete once you are thriving as a single person. The Functional Divorce process can help you take care of your SELFF and show you how to thrive in the face of this stressful life change So build your own SELFF support team! Become aware of your SELFF! Strengthen your SELFF! When you understand the key role your SELFF plays in the Functional Divorce process, you’ll be better equipped to take on every aspect of these 5 facets in a more empowering way. Whatever facet of divorce you’re going through, I’ll help you manage it with coaching services that you can learn about by clicking here, giving you the support and guidance you need. Click here to contact me right now Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone! |
